tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post305114391321124978..comments2024-03-25T22:02:29.258+00:00Comments on Wendy's Waffle: A letter to my childrenWendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01103884780854638066noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-61225921007985438242021-04-03T17:46:21.728+01:002021-04-03T17:46:21.728+01:00I promised my husband and children I would never g...I promised my husband and children I would never give them instructions on what to do upon my death. My mother and father didn't give instructions either. I want my loved ones to do whatever the heck they want to do... for me... with me... because of me... when I die. I won't know the difference. *lol* If having a big hoopla will make them feel better, then go for it. If quietly telling me good-bye and then resuming their lives right away is what's going to be easiest for them, I say do it! Again, I won't have a clue. All I know is that I'll be alright and they will too, in time. :) ~Andrea (new to your blog and happened to read this "featured" entry from your sidebar)The Feminine Energyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02145843258211481300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-52658041002327351732018-04-27T06:47:19.226+01:002018-04-27T06:47:19.226+01:00I gave my own family a few brief written instructi...I gave my own family a few brief written instructions several years ago after my Mother's death, and I also asked my children to write down any strong wishes or thoughts that they had. My own mother hadn't given us much direction. I believe it was something she did not feel comfortable thinking about or talking about. My Dad was a bit more specific with his wishes, and even with 6 of us children working together, for the most part we were able to agree on the arrangements, I think we came up with very nice services for both of our parents.Marcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00336729074703850201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-18124173656307854922018-03-19T19:22:30.827+00:002018-03-19T19:22:30.827+00:00It's on my bucket list!! thanks for the remind...It's on my bucket list!! thanks for the reminder...<br /><br><br />Gail Park<br><br /><a href="https://seezooeyrun.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow">Making Life an Art</a>Gailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11592675294950761992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-70031042890220498442018-03-01T00:49:47.881+00:002018-03-01T00:49:47.881+00:00I have made the same thing. I even have all my ema...I have made the same thing. I even have all my email/facebook/instagram/banking passwords and such, so they (my kids) can close all my accounts. My husband is not tech savvy so he would not know how to do any of it. I think it's so much help for the kids when they know what their parent wanted.Betty Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357132033070346815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-71541031988614218812018-02-16T22:04:59.582+00:002018-02-16T22:04:59.582+00:00Your post comes at a good time for me, as we absol...Your post comes at a good time for me, as we absolutely need to overcome our own inertia and denial to spell out the nitty and the gritty. We have our legal paperwork all done, such as giving power of attorney to make medical decisions to the right people and declaring to one another once in awhile, "Shoot me if it comes to that." But not really a plan, especially for our kids and friends who will be left to deal with the nitty gritty. Thanks for the inspiration!<br /><br />Lorrie at www.shrinkrapped.comCuteAsAButtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07096410890085962109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-17281852284559226822017-02-01T13:23:58.330+00:002017-02-01T13:23:58.330+00:00Definitely the right thing to do. My Mum left all...Definitely the right thing to do. My Mum left all the details for her funeral, right down to the music she wanted played as we went into the service and as we left it. She always did take care of everything for us. It's a good thing too, because my Dad, my sister and I pretty much fell apart when she died and were next to useless.Pamelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12488927758678871106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-58265421268297807642016-09-08T13:37:51.482+01:002016-09-08T13:37:51.482+01:00In India, we are not so open about talking on this...In India, we are not so open about talking on this topic - like what should you do when I die kind of question. There is a will but that's a different topic. <br />So, I like your idea and maybe I would like to leave that for my husband. But I don't know you will go first. Gosh! Now I am confused. Something to think about though. Parulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14933210393492294463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-55423453754420369152016-07-21T00:37:20.252+01:002016-07-21T00:37:20.252+01:00I think this is the right thing to do, too. You a...I think this is the right thing to do, too. You and I both lost a parent in 2012. I lost my daddy. I am sorry for the loss of your mother and your mother-in-law. <br /><br />While letting the children know your final wishes will ease that part for them, there is no preparing for the grief that is to come. Even when the illness is extended and the death is expected, there's just no real preparing oneself for it. It still hurts. :(<br /><br />Here's to a very long life ahead of you and your husband and children!<br /><br />Have a blessed day.Suzanne McClendonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15563562309945754772noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-32811343510085377412016-02-11T18:52:53.697+00:002016-02-11T18:52:53.697+00:00yes it is the right thing. Thank you for remindin...yes it is the right thing. Thank you for reminding me so that I can get onto this too. Breathing Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02482981001235740285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3682078495020586802.post-54821462898592820672016-02-09T18:20:06.071+00:002016-02-09T18:20:06.071+00:00Absolutly the right thing to have done. We strugg...Absolutly the right thing to have done. We struggled when Mum died but we had Dad to help us, although he didn't really know what she would have wanted for herself. When we lost him we really struggled with all the choices to be made. <br /><br />Coralie commented how much easier it would be if everyone left a written note of their wishes. Makes it easier for those left behind, if there are fewer decsions to make and also you can be assured that you are doing what that person wanted for themselves. <br /><br />I said I would do it but have yet to get around to it. You have prompted me to think about it again. xxJillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13464199642113069252noreply@blogger.com