A - Z Challenge - T is for Trust

My theme for this challenge is family and relations.

Trust “a confident belief in or reliance on the character, ability, strength, honesty etc of somebody or something”

Trust is very important to me.  Before I started dating my husband I had two bad experiences where men I thought I could trust let me down.  I guess I should have learned my lesson the first time but I was young and naïve at the time and definitely saw things through rose coloured glasses.

With the second man I was doubly stupid.  Having caught him cheating once, I listened to his promises and declarations of love, promise of marriage even and then he did it again.  That was a hard lesson to take.  It also required a lot of character on my part as we mixed in the same circle of friends.  Consequently I had quite a bit of contact with him, and his new partner, another friend.  It was either that or lose all my friends and have to start over.  I wasn’t prepared to do that and he didn’t feel he needed to give me any space.  So I was civilised and got on with it.

I’m good at doing that when the need arises but I’m not sure it’s the best thing to do, to suppress your emotions which is basically what I did.  But then I hate confrontation.

However, having had those experiences it makes trusting people quite hard.  Obviously there are times when you have to take a leap of faith and put your trust in other people.  I’ve never regretted doing that with my hubby.

He does know though that I wouldn’t be giving him any second chances.  If he ever cheated on me I’d have the locks changed so fast and his belonging would be in the front garden before he could think of any excuses. That may sound harsh but I’d draw the line at ruining his clothes as some people might do.  Not sure his record collection would survive though!