A - Z Challenge - V is for Virtues & Values (or alternatively Vent)

My theme for this challenge is family and relations.

Virtues “a beneficial or commendable quality” & values “to rate somebody or something in terms of usefulness, importance etc.”

This is going to be a very short post.  Needs must, deadline for the day is approaching.  Plus although I think I have a lot of good virtues it’s hard not to doubt yourself when suddenly a lot of people don’t seem to be valuing you very highly. 

Taking the moral high ground is hard when you feel like you’ve left yourself high and dry but very lonely, even if you feel there was no alternative.

 
Apologies, this is a post that should have been consigned to the trash bin or renamed V is for Vent!

A - Z Challeng - U is for Unconditional Love

My theme for this challenge is family and relations.

 

Unconditional (love) “absolute, unqualified, without any conditions attached

This is my second attempt at this post.  My original plan was to write about the unconditional love parents have for their children.  As I started writing it though I found myself qualifying my remarks and making allowances for people who may not experience that profound feeling of love for their newborns that I am fortunate to have experienced.  Or for those who may not have had their children naturally, was their love for their children any less than mine?

I continued on to how we may not always like our children but we still love them but began to wonder again if that’s really true.  Hence this second attempt at the letter U.

I started this A – Z Challenge as a way to get back into blogging so I’m not yet into doing a great deal of research on facts and figures to support (or contradict) my views.  I know that I do have unconditional love for my children.  I would lay down my life for them.  But I have been lucky.  My kids are good kids.  Yes I can take some credit for that, as can their extended family, educators, friends etc.

Would I still experience this unconditional love if things had been different?  Had I not given birth to them of if they had turned out to be troubled, difficult people?  I’d like to think so but the truth is, I don’t know.

A - Z Challenge - T is for Trust

My theme for this challenge is family and relations.

Trust “a confident belief in or reliance on the character, ability, strength, honesty etc of somebody or something”

Trust is very important to me.  Before I started dating my husband I had two bad experiences where men I thought I could trust let me down.  I guess I should have learned my lesson the first time but I was young and naïve at the time and definitely saw things through rose coloured glasses.

With the second man I was doubly stupid.  Having caught him cheating once, I listened to his promises and declarations of love, promise of marriage even and then he did it again.  That was a hard lesson to take.  It also required a lot of character on my part as we mixed in the same circle of friends.  Consequently I had quite a bit of contact with him, and his new partner, another friend.  It was either that or lose all my friends and have to start over.  I wasn’t prepared to do that and he didn’t feel he needed to give me any space.  So I was civilised and got on with it.

I’m good at doing that when the need arises but I’m not sure it’s the best thing to do, to suppress your emotions which is basically what I did.  But then I hate confrontation.

However, having had those experiences it makes trusting people quite hard.  Obviously there are times when you have to take a leap of faith and put your trust in other people.  I’ve never regretted doing that with my hubby.

He does know though that I wouldn’t be giving him any second chances.  If he ever cheated on me I’d have the locks changed so fast and his belonging would be in the front garden before he could think of any excuses. That may sound harsh but I’d draw the line at ruining his clothes as some people might do.  Not sure his record collection would survive though!